Thinking Patterns that Hold You Back

  • Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation.wrong-way-sign1-1024x768
  • Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you’re a failure. There is no middle ground.
  • Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again.
  • Mind Reading:  Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do.
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Happiness or Meaning – What Should we be Striving For?

I think about that question more and more it seems. Or perhaps what I am really asking are the meta-questions – “What is the meaning of happiness?” and, “Does happiness, in and of itself, have meaning? By meaning I mean value. Viktor Frankl quote

It has become increasingly more interesting to me that the most free, affluent, technologically advanced nation in human history is apparently so miserable that it manages to consume the vast majority of the world’s anti-depressant supply. We don’t only take more per capita than most nations, we take WAY more which begs the question – why?… read the rest...

The Greatest Christmas Gift You Never Thought Of

This is the time of year when our thoughts should take a bit of a detour into more spiritual waters.kevin-carter-vulture1 Hopefully amidst all the chaos of Christmas shopping, traveling, the stresses of family gatherings and the commerciality of it all, we’ll  find the time to reflect on the Christ and what His birth meant to the world. Perhaps we’ll also ponder generosity and what the true spirit of giving is about. But what most of us won’t think about is our true nature and the true state of the world in which we live.… read the rest...

The Lottery of Birth

It is a puzzling phenomenon that the vast majority of people go through their entire lives without thorough consideration of why they believe what they do. The admonition of Socrates, “The unexamined life is not worth living” falls largely on deaf ears.tumblr_m8ily7gZMX1r5gy4zo1_500 Most never consider that their beliefs and values are not truly their own but the result of the lottery of their birth. Take me for example. I was born in the USA, to politically conservative, fundamentalist Christian, upper middle class parents.… read the rest...

Destruction: The Real Path to Spirituality

When most people think of spiritual evolution they tend to think in positive terms like love, peace, joy, etc.Valley But each of these and many of their nearest cousins are the products of an awakened mind, not the path to one. The process of true spiritual development is a destructive one to be sure. Ideas, beliefs and understandings that for most of us have been cornerstones of our existence end up obliterated in the process. There is nothing comfortable about it and at many points along the way, it can be downright terrifying.… read the rest...

What’s the Most Valuable Commodity in the World?

What would you say is the most valuable commodity in the world? gold? diamonds? a big house? the perfect job? the perfect partner? world travel? a huge bank balance?VisionBoardPeaceofMind17 Those are the things that come to mind first for most people, especially westerners. Over the years my mother always told me something that it took me a while to realize was absolutely true. The greatest commodity in the world is this – peace of mind. Think about it, what would your life be like if you had it?… read the rest...

Top 10 Spiritually Damaging Ideas

Yesterday I was looking back across my spiritual evolution to this point and taking a bit of an inventory.Enlightenment I discovered something I’d like to share since I am certain many of you will find  parallels in your own journey. What I came to understand was much of my effort thus far has been in overcoming beliefs, concepts, ideas and principles that I now understand to be spiritually damaging, not only personally, but to all people and the earth’s collective consciousness.… read the rest...

40 Tips for a Better Life

  1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
  2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.


  1. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
  2. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, ‘My purpose is to __________ today.’
  3. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
  4. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.
  5. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer.
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We All Need Reminders Sometimes

A spiritual journey is just that, a journey.group_photo2-540x229 While history certainly has record of those who “woke up” in a momentous instant, the truth is that in almost every case there was a very long path  leading to that place. It’s a another example of the “overnight success” that really took years. As Malcolm Gladwell has pointed out, it usually takes about 10,000 hours to get really good at something.  There simply are no shortcuts.

The last couple of days for me have been an effective reminder of this truth.… read the rest...

The Astonishing Power of Words

Most of us take words for granted. We use them largely without too much thought as a means to communicate. We learn language very early and it quickly becomes something akin to breathing. It’s a GREAT tool to be sure and is one of the key differences between humans and other species.healing-words Words, however, have far more impact on our lives than most of us tend to realize. In my study of linguistics I came to realize just how much more.… read the rest...